Almost two years ago, I made a silent plea to never settle for less than what I deserve.
We broke up officially without any proper closures yet I am nor sad or regretful of what happened. I gained freedom, which was what I seek.
I went crazy for adventures, use Tinder to meet up or date (not have sex for God’s sake), catch up with old friends and everything on the list of The Art of Moving On and Finding Love .
And the best of it was finding myself. I felt an overwhelming happiness knowing that I can be contented on my own. Looking back, I was too needy for validations and for people to reciprocate how I valued them. Yet now, I am more outspoken, independent and whole may it be without a lover.
But the problem about being single for too long is you get to be less reliant on relationships.
You will get used on making your own decisions. You won’t like dramas or arguments. You will be too picky even if you know there are no perfect relationships. And instead of working it out, you’ll likely give up easily rather than taking risks. Even changing your lifestyle or making time to date would be a bother. The worst is reaching the point of questioning yourself if you’ll ever get used to being committed again or even marrying.
So, when would you likely be in a relationship again?
No one can tell.
The thing is you live by the moment.
If you get intertwined with someone, go for it. Not all the time will you find comfort in deep conversations with one person.
It is impossible to find someone who won’t hurt you, so just have the person who’s worth the pain and risk. Besides, it’s not marriage that we’re talking about so don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. Relationships are always a trial and error and you can never tell what the future holds.